SELFHOOD AND SELF-PERCEPTION
We are aware of ourselves in two chief ways, as being oneself or
thinking about oneself:-
Primarily in direct self-intuition in which the self who knows and the known
self are not distinguished. This is the immediate experience of being, in which
one feels, thinks, acts etc.
Secondarily, through more or less clear thoughts and ideas about ourselves,
which is an indirect self-perception. For example, in thinking 'this is my body',
'I am a UK citizen' or in remembering any past experience, imagining something
in my future and in many other ways. It is this secondary kind of self-awareness
that builds up self-images, different for each person and invariably consisting
in many intricately interrelated elements, starting off with personal experiences
and family background. The so-called 'self-image' amounts to the sum of the
ways in which we define who we are to ourselves and to others.
Self images are secondary aspects of personality, which may or may not clearly
reflect the actual self as it is expressed through one's being as one lives,
acts and relates etc. in the world. One's whole personality is the result of
interaction between the actual and the imagined self... i.e. the person and
his or her self-images. However, this secondary aspect of personality is underpinned
by the authentic person, without which the two would not be able to integrate
into a more or less 'whole' personality. This is because the person would then
be nothing but a series of thoughts, memories, images, feelings etc. without
real substance.
The 'self-image' can have both emotional and mental components - and can be
'weighted' more in the direction either of a physical image, a mental or social
image and a spiritual image. It is therefore convenient to view the self-image
from various aspects, as follows:-
1) Physical aspects of the self: at the tangible level of the body,
one's self-image is invariably bound up to some extent with physical appearance
as we feel or think it to be. As Vedanta tells us, we mistakenly think ourselves
to be the body. People with regular physical features and an appearance of the
sort widely regarded as acceptable - handsome or beautiful - may seldom have
problems at the level of the physically-based self-image. This does not mean
that the self-image is by any means always a neutral or correct 'reflection'
of one's physical attributes. A person may feel unattractive or even repulsive
to others, without this being founded in the actual judgements of others. This
shows how the self-image is detached from actual physical images.
A person who has cosmetic surgery such as a face-lift may often feel no better
afterwards because the same self-image previous to the supposedly improved appearance
has been retained. As the plastic surgeon Maxwell Maltz demonstrated,
positive change in his patients' sense of self-confidence and self-satisfaction
required a change not only - or even mainly, in physical appearance, but also
in the internal self-image. The human nervous system evidently cannot distinguish
between 'actual' experience and experience 'imagined vividly and in detail',
so that a strongly held negative self-image stimulates negative reactions from
the system, while a strong positive self-image induces positive reactions. The
ideal situation is full concurrence of thought, feelings and actions with one's
self-image.
The self is therefore not to be confused with the body. Physical beauty, ordinariness
or ugliness are not properties of the self, but of the body. These are but hindrances,
advantages or challenges to us in the process of progressive self-realisation,
which is one aspect of the very purpose of life and of being born. Physical
appearance can just as well express or also conceal the true self, depending
on circumstances and the individual. One should not judge the self by outward
signs or physical appearance. Nor should one judge it by the present or immediate
condition of a person. Much is hidden that cannot be seen, the inward reality
of the heart and soul is deeply hidden from others.
Now, the 'I' is capable of reflecting over things without attaching itself
to the object reflected on. To the extent, however, that I am attached to the
body and hence to the ego-feeling, identifying unduly with my previous experiences,
my supposed qualities or my various types of possession. So I become less actively
myself and more passively under limitations imposed by the self-image. This
image may well have become irrelevant to my situation, for self-images tend
to stultify the growing, changing and transcending 'I' of authentic selfhood.
2) Social aspects of the self: The majority of the elements and ideas
of mental life concerning selfhood, identity and personality are derived from
others, making it natural to regard the self-image primarily in a social framework.
In relation to the world, the self is defined in terms of society and this means
that personal identity depends for all worldly purposes to a large extent upon
how others define us. This 'social self' is based upon a persons many qualities
and achievements. It is only at best a part of the Self in the higher sense,
and is definitely not the essential or 'pure' selfhood.
There is no clear dividing line between the physical and the social basis
of a self-image. For example, a mutilation of the chest and face is not necessarily
seen as undesirable, for it depends entirely upon the social surroundings. What
we may regard as meaningless bodily mutilation is, in certain tribes, admired
as a ritual proof of adulthood and courage. In certain tribes in Africa and
the East Indies, for example, the correct traditional physical scars or apparent
'deformities' are a proof of completed initiation, of adulthood and so on. The
same applied, say, to facial sword-wounds in men in nineteenth-century Prussia;
they were a cherished mark of manhood. Many examples can still be found all
around the world. This illustrates how crucial a role the internalised views
of others usually play in the formation and maintenance of self-images. 'What
others think you are' tends to define one's own way of thinking in many respects.
Therefore 'what others think you are' - taken in as part of one's mind - tends
to define the self-image in many respects. However, despite this, a person who
some think has a pleasant appearance can feel it to be quite the opposite. In
such a case, the negative self-image may have been induced by a minority of
others with undue influence, or it may simply have been developed independently
of social consensus through other negative experiences destructive of self-confidence.
Most ideas about personality are learned from interaction with others in the
process of growing up. Thus the self-image develops primarily as part of a larger
social picture, it is a 'psycho-social identity' which is only a changing identity,
not our true being. It can still have some lasting, essential elements, while
many will only have temporary relevance or even none whatever. The social self-image
can be so formed as to create emotional and mental conflict and itself be a
chief cause of lack of self-confidence. Such a self-image always requires radical
modification to become faithful to the person.
To reject the consensus of others may be either positive or negative for one's
self-image(s), depending upon both the actuality or rightness of those judgements
and the degree to which the individual is sensitive to the influence of the
others. In the long run an overall rejection will usually either involve major
deviance from accepted social conventions and laws or else require considerable
strength of character and the requisite self-confidence. The association, for
example, with bad company will tend to influence towards wrongdoing and so emphasise
traits in the self-image that are deviant or negative, while and with good company
towards the more positive.
Thus, the ego-feeling becomes a mix of one's own body-based desires and socially
acquired desires and attachments. The opinions of others about oneself are 'taken
in' from early on and are perhaps often confused with one's own feelings. This
results in an ego which is partly formed - or malformed - through the so-called
'internalised other'. Integration of the body-based and mind-based aspects of
personality takes place over time and only after the social-mental self-image
has developed to a fairly stable maturity. Not to integrate the two stops one
becoming more fully oneself, because the self-image personality is then based
on unrealistic ideas or self-delusions. This may be due to denial of one's actual
character through having a false self-image, or due to having such high expectations
or ideals for oneself that they are practically unreachable.
If one has a distorted, inflated or otherwise false self-image, one will not
be able to progress in matters which are affected by having it until one overcomes
it, i.e. gains self-knowledge. A false self-image is one that denies the facts
of one's life, especially and most usually the negative facts. To reject the
views of others about oneself may be both positive and negative for a self-image,
depending upon the rightness and accuracy - or incorrectness or moral wrong
- of such judgements, which again can depend much on whether the company one
keeps is good or bad.
3) The Universal Self and self-image: The authentic aspect of personality,
as true selfhood or identity, is comparable to a thread which holds together
the beads, representing many identity-forming elements that distinguish that
person from others. The overall self-image may be a more or less authentic reflection
of the original, being more so when the characteristics of the ego, as distinct
from the Self, are less determining.
Spiritual psychology teaches that the person you are, at any time in your
life, is what you have become as a result of your own previous actions, feelings
and thoughts. These can have occurred in a previous life and have accrued to
the basic and otherwise unformed personality of the infant, because no human
soul is born without characteristics. To identify always with past aspects of
oneself, or even present ones, is limiting. A sounder sense of self of a less
fragile or dependent kind is more likely when self is identified less with the
ego and more with the higher aspects.
However, what we really are at the highest conceivable and/or experiencable
level is more than what we have become in mundane terms. Adopting 'universality'
of approach, the principle of human and cosmic Unity, any higher psychology
goes to the very root human identity. For the present it is enough to note that
the concept of "I" is universal and it cannot be explored or properly defined
in terms of any physical or social facts. The "I" is distinct from the egoistic
'me' and points towards an identity which remains unchanged throughout all worldly
changes. It is the self-inquiry that leads to the inner discovery of the meaning
of "I" which gives human evolution its overall orientation, according to Vedanta.
This will be further discussed later under the general subject of self-transformation.
CHANGING PERCEPTION OF THE SELF
One thinks, feels, speaks and acts mainly in accordance with one's self-image.
It follows from this that a change in self-image can initiate corresponding
changes in behaviour. How is the self-image to be changed: towards what and
by which means?
The self-confidence that is the foundation of self-realisation cannot, however,
be founded on a false self-image. If one has a weak, distorted or inflated self-image,
progress will be affected. Confidence in oneself obviously builds on knowledge
of one's actual nature and potential development, not in continually dwelling
on failings or sins. Those problems of life that cause disquiet drive some to
escape mentally from recognising the problem or its causes give a false sense
of self-confidence, one that cannot sustain itself.
Placing blame elsewhere is a common trait. It can be consciously done, as
when one analyses the causes of one's situation to conclude that it was not
of one's own doing. Seldom, however, can one not find a fault in oneself that
has enabled one to get into that situation, whatever else is the case. Self-deception
can take quite contrary forms, from inferiority to superiority. Refusing to
face up to realities around us or denying our own part in difficulties can cause
problems. If taken too far, mental disorders like mania, delusions of grandeur,
paranoia and depression can result, all of which show some discrepancies between
the self-image and actual behaviour. Further than that, the self-image is not
then connected to one's true Self as a divine potential.
Confidence in one's work and personal action obviously depends on recognising
- but not in dwelling on - personal failings and wrongdoing with a view to changing
them. Self-confidence of the inspiring and lasting order, however, builds only
on the conviction that we are neither body nor mind, but really are essentially
rooted in an unitary greater self, however one wishes to conceive of it or name
it.
Self-images change, sometimes with and sometimes without our conscious attempts.
By various forms of active thought however, much in life may be transformed...
by the right kind of thinking about oneself. Bertrand Russell put forward the
basic recipe for what much later became widely known under such titles as 'positive
thinking' or 'self-healing' as follows:- "Let your conscious beliefs be so vivid
and emphatic that they make an impression upon your unconscious strong enough
to cope with the impression made by your nurse or your mother when you were
an infant." This approach in increasingly being developed, tried and tested
in many areas of human endeavour.
Vividly imagined experience tends to induce the same in 'actual' experience.
For tangible results such thinking is to be sustained over the years, rather
than short periods. The difference between self-transformation and wishful thinking
is always important. Convincement through mere autosuggestion or fantasy is
a trap to avoid. Only self-images fully backed up as far as possible by good
words and actions are genuine. If we act in harmony with the idea of divinity,
the inner image is reinforced by positive experience and by the joy of discovering
more of our supra-personal Being. It is crucial, however, that what one posits
is what one really wants! Further, only if what one affirms is beneficial, and
not an ego desire, does personal development result. It is fateful to let our
self-image depend on any aspects of the body or faculties of the mind, or on
any of the passing phenomena of the psyche. Identifying with the highest conceivable
selfhood may lead on to realisation of - and unity in awareness with - our essential
identity.
The social persona is the public aspect of our identity which is derived from
the attitudes, judgements and reactions of others. The social persona usually
reflects one's self-image, especially in so far as it is derived from others
and designed for them. The persona is what today is called one's 'public image',
the 'face' that a person presents to the world... in other words, those aspects
of the ego which are projected - whether in full or partial awareness - by a
person to inform the social environment as to his or her 'social identity'.
The persona obviously need not be a true reflection of the person's own nature
or true personality, but a suitable form of social camouflage. The persona is
usually adopted and gradually built-up for the sake of adjustment to the particular
social environment to enable one to 'fit in' better. It can therefore be modified
and changed, in chameleon fashion, when surrounding conditions change without
seriously affecting either the ego or the fuller personality.
The relative importance of the development of various types of social personae
for the development of personality is differently estimated by writers on the
psyche. One key condition in the nurture of character and of a good self-image
is that individuals are not all cut down to the same Procrustean bed of one
definitive moral or religious code. All narrow fundamentalist ideas that reduce
the universal vision of selfhood will eventually infringe self respect and respect
of others. In doing mental violence against some, social harmony is the price
that will be paid. A good maxim for one person can be fatal for another. From
childhood onwards we accumulate experiences which affect us in our thoughts,
feelings and actions so that we develop a specific personality. The personality
is formed in the interplay between our attempts to protect, satisfy and express
ourselves and the surrounding world of people and things... that is, the personal
relationships into which we are born and those we enter into, the groups or
organisations of the society we depend on.
In the 'social behaviourism' of G.H. Mead and the work of many whom have been
influenced by it, the social character of thought is greatly emphasised and
the development of the ego (that is called the 'self' in Mead's terminology)
is seen exclusively as the result of social language and acts2
. Mead held that one can only approach the study of individual behaviour as
the expression and result of social groups, though he also recognised the inner
life of the individual as a process the development of which must also be appreciated
as a whole and from within1. But thereby he ruled out any idea of the ego as
being self-generated or at least self-sustained. He appears therefore to have
tended to overemphasise group influence, not making clear enough that group
behaviour is always a result of personal actions, however strongly influenced
by group pressures etc.
Though some Marx influenced thinkers have analysed the ego and arrived at
the extreme view that it is entirely a product of social influences3
, it is indisputable that the ego is partly formed by the opinions of others
and through society at large.
The Freudian term 'superego' denotes those ideas, beliefs or patterns of
mental and emotional which a person has taken in during upbringing and education
which act as an internal control both upon natural instincts and socially unacceptable
impulses. The superego thus refers back to those external influences, made one's
own by a person largely in the form of ideas and feelings of social responsibility.
It constrains the desires and sets limits to behaviour in all kinds of ways.
The superego describes a part of a person's inner life, having become 'internalised'
at a time when the individual was very impressionable and probably incapable
of resisting such thoughts.
The 'superego' is sometimes characterised as the 'voice' which insists that
one 'ought' or 'ought not' act as one's impulses or ambitions would dictate.
Freud's naturalistic and anti-spiritual perspective unfortunately caused him
to identify all conscience as superego. But the superego is not necessarily
at all in agreement with the true voice of conscience, for its dictates may
often be extreme, irrational and wrong, having been enforced upon the vulnerable
child by ignorant parents or teachers in highly confusing ways.
The ideas, feelings and habits that make up the superego originate outside
the person, while the genuine call of conscience originates within the person,
its source being the higher nature (Buddhi). The conflict between the demands
of a strong and oppressive superego and the pure conscience often generate
very great confusion, pain and mental unbalance.
As stated from the start, there is a great deal of confusion of ideas connected
with the self, personal identity and becoming oneself (or self-development)
in modern psychology. This confusion is compounded by philosophical ideas and
popular notions. Much is said about expressing oneself and developing oneself
as a means towards 'being oneself'. This has found its way into many fields
of human activity, from innovative psychotherapies to new semi-spiritual movements
of every rainbow hue and it has influenced branches of liberal market management
theory and not least the politics of anti-collectivist or 'populist' movements
and parties.
There are two main avenues of approach to being oneself, 1) being oneself
in the sense of not being other than one is 2) becoming truly oneself, realising
what one is in the deepest possible spiritual sense.
The first avenue is a prerequisite to the second. It implies not being other
than one is, such as by adopting a false self-image, pretensions, deceptions
of others by playing roles and so forth. This in itself is not necessarily a
simple or straightforward development, as we shall see. The second avenue is
that of the lifelong process of self-discovery through understanding oneself
in relation to the world and all that is, and so acting in accordance with a
true vision of the potentiality of human selfhood.
To be oneself obviously does not simply mean to become what everyone else
thinks one should, but only what one's own judgement, conscience and convictions
require. Being oneself is surely opposed to adopting a false self. To stand
against the pressure of the herd, the group and the mass is a challenge from
which individual integrity and self-integration can be won. Not for the sake
of opposition, but for the sake of what is right and best according to one's
understanding and one's principles. Reaching conviction about principles and
being able to stand up for them fully is often the result of a long process
of maturation, depending at least partly on the fortunes of upbringing and background.
Many confuse the idea of being oneself with desires to do whatever one wants
if one can. Being oneself in the authentic sense does doubtless require a measure
of personal freedom from undue social controls, oppression of one kind and another,
the suppression of human rights and so forth. How it is interpreted, in physical,
social or spiritual ways, will depend on the phase of one's development.
The idea of 'being oneself' has become a general key to self-development and
the freest possible expression of one's own nature, including one's most basic
and personal wants and desires. It thus often stands partly in opposition to
those moral, religious and political traditions that would, in the common interest,
set clear limits to individualism and to its unhindered expression.
Since the accent is on selfhood and individual desires and rejecting limits
to personal growth, the search for the self tends to degenerate into a 'self-seeking'
movement by overlooking the crucial role of duty, such as in taking full personal
responsibility in social, ecological and economical questions.
The ideal of individual freedom of selfhood is associated with liberal optimism
about human nature. The humanistic ideal of liberality - connected with that
of Rousseau-inspired 'social liberation' is based on an assumption about human
nature, one taken to its logical extreme by anarchists like Proudhon and Fourier.
In a nutshell, this is the belief that, if allowed to live and develop 'naturally'
without any impositions from the repressive traditional family or society, the
human child would develop into a liberated person whose authentic self would
reach its full and benevolent expression in a harmonious social environment.
This anarchistic-utopian ideal is still a motivating dream, though in various
and modified forms, in many of the new combinations of self-development and
transformative teaching. Of course, on the economical-political level, the liberal
idea was to work for unhindered free trade, the open exchange of all ideas and
freedom of expression ('a free press'). This has led to many 'freedoms', from
freedom to travel (hence mass tourism) and some would even say to the over-liberal
freedoms that would let one 'get away with anything'.
How far this ideal can be reconciled to traditional ideals of self-development,
self-control and altruistic self-denial is questionable. On the one hand we
must be aware that the undue suppression of natural human needs by external
or social pressures can cause character weaknesses and mental disorder. On the
other hand, if the idea of self-fulfilment takes forms that lead to an unrestricted
'free-for-all' to satisfy whatever supposed needs or sheer wants occur to a
person, conflicts and the breakdown of civilised values may result. Some hold
that this is already well under way, witness the relative demise of the family's
role in life, increasing drug-dependencies, the ever-greater superficiality
of culture, unbounded freedom of expression, the massive mental illness figures
and increased and unheard-of forms of violence and other inhuman aberrations.
Others still hold that the root cause of these tendencies is rather the denial
- through deprived upbringing, wrong educational ideals or social controls etc.
- of some basic human need or 'natural right' of the individual to live expansively
and require whatever is needed of the environment to that end.
In the postwar intellectual movement called existentialism, the call to 'be
oneself' was elevated into philosophical theories of 'authentic' selfhood4.
By and large, existentialists rejected any notion of the individual ever having
one true self or unchanging identity. They laid most weight on the need of freeing
oneself from all pressures towards mere conformity and bland acceptance of the
shadowy sides of the status quo. This usually inclined them towards either anarchism,
liberal humanism or bohemian socialism. They made selfhood a relative quantity,
something initially enforced by the circumstances of birth, background or class
and subsequently modified through 'existential choices'. Freedom to be or become
who or what one liked (always within the bounds of possibility) was the idea
crucial to existentialism... one which has become a mainspring in various social,
psychological and spiritual teachings today.
The ability to recognise one's weaknesses, limitations and failings is the
beginning of being oneself in a more secure way, for it is a prerequisite for
self-discovery. The failure to see or face one's weaknesses is the greatest
of weaknesses. To try to 'neutralise' one's problems by complaining, expecting
or hoping that others or society will act or make amends for them is commonly
met with, looking for causes of ills that beset one everywhere but in oneself.
Being oneself is not fully achieved until a person reaches a relatively stable,
integral personality. This includes the ability to recognise and deal with one's
failings and difficulties without undue mental stress or self-deception. Many
different problems can occur from which one may wish to escape. Some are due
to strictly objective conditions. If one cannot alter these, perhaps one works
where possible to remove oneself from them as soon as one can. For most people
the question of how best to earn a living and find a tolerable social environment
is at some time in life a problem that requires major and often long-term efforts.
Such a challenge is usually only avoided at a price, such as by drinking and
drug-taking, while the problem itself always remains in the background ready
to return when one's senses return.
For anything to be a problem it must also be experienced as such, otherwise
it is not actually a problem for the person concerned. There are people who
can live happily and unselfishly under conditions that most of us could not
envisage ever tolerating. One cannot simply say that 'objectively' they have
problems of which they are not aware or which will become evident to them under
certain conditions, for one cannot ever know such things with certainty. One's
own ideas about problems which one projects onto other persons or societies
may themselves be the major problem!
Seldom if ever are such 'real' material problems purely that. One's own ideas,
- one's expectations, dislikes or desires, say - usually lie at the root of
a problem and compound it. Indeed, problems can often arise purely because of
the tastes one holds on to, the feelings, opinions that one will not change
or give up. This can be so extreme that people sometimes suffer lives of depression
and chaotic relationships largely because of their mistaken and fanatically-held
beliefs and habits. Such 'subjective' problems, though their consequences are
real enough, can be solved in a huge variety of ways or they may also sometimes
be dealt with by such means as mental therapy, practically-oriented spiritual
teachings, meditation and so forth, depending on the nature of the problems.
'Be yourself!' was once just a common admonition to persons who gave themselves
airs and had pretensions of being something they were not or who played at being
like someone else.
This idea of liberation from a false self or of gaining 'personal autonomy'
has become part of mainstream psychological thinking today both for better and
worse. All depends, for course, at what level the word 'self' is understood;
from the ego-self to the selfless Self. Traditionally, psychodynamic theories
such as Freud's were quite pessimistic in outlook, despite the aims of psycho-analytic
therapy to change the individual. Freud believed in the need of strong social
controls because of the baser instincts everywhere found in man. This tendency
was rejected by Wilhelm Reich, beginning with his theory of character analysis5
, the main assumption being that the natural and healthy psyche is repressed
by authoritarian society, was combined with an optimism about the possibility
of healing the crippling effects of society on the lives of individuals. For
Reich, not being oneself and not being able to express oneself freely (especially
on the sexual level) was the cause of all the ills of civilisation. In more
modern psychotherapy influenced by Reich and his various followers, transformation
of the self was to be effected through techniques of working on the body (esp.
the muscular 'character armor'). Alfred Perles' therapy also accents the idea
of being oneself, mainly through expressing and often fulfilling one's desires.nn
Jean-Paul Sartre, for example, rejected the idea that a person could really
have a definitive or 'fixed' identity and poured scorn on those who behaved
as though they did for merely playing false roles for themselves and others
and so exhibiting 'bad faith' (mauvais foi). To adopt a false self was a common
form of deception, whether this took the form of sheer pretension, personal
misrepresentation and dishonesty, bourgeois complacency or much else besides.
Sartre thus threw some light on behaviour that lacks personal engagement and
individual integrity and on its various possible causes, especially those arising
from anti-humanistic social traditions and pressures. One 'self' for Sartre
was essentially one's personal history, the sum total of one's actions, past
and present... for which one was also responsible.
Sartre characterised some of the many ploys of this false sense of having
a fixed nature for which one cannot be held responsible through literary work.
One example of 'bad faith' is observable in what Sartre isolated as the 'spirit
of seriousness'. This is an affectation that aims, under false pretenses, to
gain trust from others and so hopes to influence them. The self-centered and
self-justifying compensate for their lack of authenticity by an ever-serious
mien. It expresses a strong sense of self-importance and a corresponding lack
of self-irony, which is why one-sided moralists and preaching religionists are
most often seen to wear its garb.
The psychology of personality 'splits' and multiple identities has many aspects,
since there are apparently countless ways in which people experience this and
to varying degrees. There is a very extensive literature on this subject, though
far from all of it leads to better understanding of the individual concerned.
Most of it is concerned with the possibility of physical causes and corresponding
types of treatment. To what extent or in which person such derangements are
caused by genetic or other physical factors - or even influenced by them at
all, is still highly uncertain. Persons in the close social environment of those
with such dual-personality problems, however, can seldom be entirely exonerated
from all responsibility. Average social reactions to the mentally disturbed,
such as lacking understanding, care and love, can contribute to perpetuating
and worsening such 'deranged' responses.
Psychologists have naturally long tried to discover what causes or motivates
people to adopt a false self or to lose mental integration in amnesia and multiple
personality disorder, so as to seek how to help cure them. There is a large
literature on disturbed and divided selfhood, not least of which in significance
is found in descriptive novels and criminological biographies, as well as in
psychiatry.
As has been touched on, by investigating deeply into the complex of confused
identifications and distorted family and other relationships, the manner in
which so-called 'schizophrenic' symptoms arose may be traceable. The urges and
reasoning in the individual and surrounding family and society may frequently
have made these symptoms appear as 'the only possible response' to impossible
situations that have developed through time.
Disturbed development of selfhood and self-perceptions evidently arise where
a person's sense of security has been seriously threatened, when one fears loss
of the trust by others, the cutting-off of acceptance, respect, love and the
disturbance of a positive social identity, status, professional position and
so on. Many of the problems of dual and multiple personalities appear to have
originated very early in life and to have been caused by was analysed as 'a
double-bind' situation6, whereby opposite signals
are conveyed simultaneously to the child who is not equipped to perceive the
contradiction as such. For example, to tell a child that one loves him or her
while at the same time rejecting the child by other definite means sends two
opposing signals. The child's confusion causes the gradual development of two
opposed responses, which can be the core of a dual personality that develops
through further time and with such 'double-binding'.
The issue of authentic vs. false self is much complicated by the fact that
people in vulnerable positions, especially during childhood and youth, can be
made to harbour a sense of guilt, which is unfounded in fact yet which has been
inculcated and enforced by the oppressive control and irrelevant preaching of
others. Guilt reflects fear of some kind, especially the fear that one has done
wrong. If one has been misled at an early stage of development as to what is
natural and normal in life, such as is common in some rigid and heartless systems
of supposedly 'religious' moral training, the inherent desires of a person will
come into conflict with the repressive guilt-feelings. Such a 'guilt-complex'
can be extremely painful and powerful and can have many unforeseen consequences,
from great suffering and self-destructive behaviour to feelings of intense anxiety
and desperation which may lead to acts of revenge of all manner.
It is almost certain that fear and anxiety play a role in many persons whose
behaviour deviates from a sound line of development. Though there are fears
of many things and anxieties that seem to have no identifiable object of fear,
the roots of these problems are invariably to be sought in the frustration of
desires. The desires of both body and mind are here involved, especially those
having to do with a sense of security.
In reality, what ultimately effects the most lasting changes in one's life
is not the personal ego. Vedanta teaches that the Overself is the innermost
motor of forward developments, being pure awareness. It's presence is intimated
in the witnessing 'I' that characterises (individual) awareness and is always
immanently present somehow within or 'behind' consciousness. This 'I-awareness'
(for want of a commonly established term for it) is not to be confused with
the mind, as is very often done. If I do not identify myself with my body or
even with the mind's various products (perceptions, conceptions, memories, dreams
etc.), then I am aware of an independent persistence of consciousness, separable
from any of the variety of thoughts, feelings and other range of 'mental objects'
that impinge on it and which we usually but too inaccurately would say go to
'make up consciousness'.
When thus conceived and 'experienced' through contemplation as a transcendent
conscious individual, the self is observed as neither the product of body or
mind, for these are seen to be its instruments. It is from this spiritual level
that I direct 'my' thoughts, 'my' will and 'my' body, not the other way round.
This conception of the consciousness 'purified' of mind and body, yet autonomously
directing the mind and body (in respect of whatever circumstances are already
given) is the sole and logically indispensable basis of the idea of self-control,
self-mastery, self-discipline and individual selfhood. It is the highest expressible
form of sheer individual identity (of the jiva), that which makes one be and
realise 'oneself'. It is pure inward identity. At the same time, at this level
one sees the identity between all individuals, for the differences due to variety
of bodies and minds are no longer significant. Thus, through recognising the
essential nature of selfhood as the same living spirit of I-awareness in everyone,
we become aware that the personal soul is one with the universal spirit.
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| Footnotes: 1. Psycho-Cybernetics, Maxwell Maltz M.D. 2. Mind, Self and Society. G. H. Mead (1924.) 3. Particularly Jean-Paul Sartre The Transcendence of the Ego trans. 1957 and Being and Nothingness 1943 trans. 1956). 4. Being and Time Martin Heidegger Gestalt Therapy Alfred Perles The Myth of Mental Illness by T. Szasz (1961). The Divided Self by R.D. Laing (London 1960) Sanity, Madness and the Family by R.D. Laing and Alan Esterson. (London 1964). 5. Character Analysis Wilhelm Reich. Publ. Simon & Schuster. (NY. 1961) 6. Towards a Theory of Schizophrenia. G. Bateson, D. D. Jackson, J. Haley, J. Weakland. Behavioural Science 1, 251. 1956. |